We all have opportunities available to us but it all begins with a choice. That one simple choice has the ability to change the trajectory of your life for the good or the bad depending on the decision. We have to get out of our own way and our high moral grounds that we have to be right or to believe something or form an opinion without getting all the information.
I recently had to make a choice of whether or not I wanted to live in the moment standing firm In a belief that I had to stick to my guns because I believed that I was right in my beliefs. With my taking that action I realized that I was wasting energy with my time trying to convince myself that I was right and I should hold firm in that mindset. I was more concerned with being right then succumbing as it felt like I would be backing down and seeming weak for compromising.
Really at the end of the day when I chose to let go of the need to be right and reached out to someone to see what was the worst that could happen. What I realized is that I actually felt better and lighter in spirit by having done so. At the end of the day, to hold on to a belief or thought that is actually sapping your energy should indicate to you that maybe you are holding on too tight to your insecurity. Move past that fear because when it comes to relationships with others, letting go of the need to be right allows for better communication.
Again, we get in our own way of our happiness by not trusting that things can work out if you leave the ego behind. Stubbornness or the need to be right at the end is just a self defence mechanism that we wield in order to try to protect our vulnerability. Our fear of exposing our true selves to another can be very intimidating to most because the fear of judgement. We are our own biggest critics as every one of us are imperfect.
To have a level of vulnerability is not a sign of weakness, it’s more a true reflection of strength of character. To allow things to happen without having to control the outcome or trying to have sovereignty over someone else is very liberating. To reveal your flaws can be a vulnerable experience that can make anyone anxious however when you choose to take ownership of both the good and bad qualities of yourself, this means that you empower yourself to live a comfortable life with more authenticity.
Joanne Robinson
