Meeting or dating new people, you can almost equate it to looking at cabinets. There are many different types of cabinets and again people fall within the same spectrum. There are the preassembled cabinets which are on display, they are easy and accessible, and you know exactly how it comes about. Then there are other cabinets which require that you only add the door handles and hinges and voila, there is your new cabinet. Then there are the others that come with a few pieces and instructions and you can easily navigate the assembly.
Life is much more complicated than that and it will bring about surprising facts. Sometimes there will be a cabinet that you purchase at IKEA. We all know that they come with many pieces and the process of assembly will definitely not be an easy task. To complicate matters, there are times when you will also get that piece of furniture that does not have a manual attached. That can seem very frustrating. For those who lack patience and motivation, they will never be able to put that piece of furniture together. However, for the select few who persevere will reap the biggest rewards. Firstly, for having accomplished the assembly and secondly knowing that it was not an easy task and that it was not meant for everyone.
Now there is always the shopping at the thrift store which the furniture or couch on display looks good. You sit on it at the store and feels comfortable enough. You justify that it is worth the price because you save money. So, you opt to bring it home. Here is the fun part. There are so many things that awaken in you that you didn’t see in the store that you realize when you take it home. First, the longer you sit on the couch, you realize that it is not that comfortable as it was in the store. Short periods of time works but anything longer is not comfy. You also realize that it is lumpy and bumpy.
Dating is so much like bringing home a used couch. The longer we try to shop at the thrift store, we must patiently wait for that magnificent couch to miraculously appear with the price tag intact and waiting for a new home. It has been known to happen so that is why the phrase “do not settle” really comes into play here. Some people will be okay with a fixer upper, others will settle with the uncomfortable because they need a couch. Others who will succeed will sit on the floor and wait until that couch shows up and fills the room with comfortableness.
In today’s world of quick and easy, it is not for everyone to wait patiently. However if you are consistent and know in your heart of hearts that it will happen, then it has no choice but to happen. You just have to look at the time of sitting on the floor in anticipation as a great story to tell in the future. Imagine all the fun times that can be had. Worse case just sit on your bed and watch TV from there. There are many different things you can do. Everything is a choice and that is a privilege that should not be taken for granted. This way you do not have to settle for a lumpy bumpy couch, you can wait out for the best option. Dating should be looked at in the same context. However, for varying reasons people opt for whatever is presented in front of them. Even if that may not be in their best interest.
Joanne Robinson
