We all look outwards and inwards for perfection in all things. Material, nature, surroundings, and excellence in actions. There is such a thing as overestimating or even projecting your high standards on yourself or someone else and then watching them fail to meet them. That is what happens when you are not content within yourself and look to others to make you feel more successful.
I have been surrounded by many people who have wanted me to fail throughout my life, yet I take that energy to try to better myself for it. Life is difficult in itself and to try to live up to the expectations of others is quite daunting. I have learned that I cannot always meet others’ expectations because they believe that I can do things that I simply cannot. I’ve had to work very hard to not take that disappointment personally. I cannot control other peoples’ reactions and I am learning to believe in myself.
There comes a point in time when we all must decide that enough is enough and stand up for yourself. Allowing yourself to focus on what makes you happy is the best remedy that you can do. There will definitely be people who are in your life that will not comprehend nor understand why you choose to walk away. However, choosing yourself is the hardest decision that you will ever make. There are always repercussions with every choice that is made, and it is not the easiest path to take. Once you choose yourself is when you become stronger and have more belief in yourself that you can handle anything that comes your way.
There is no such thing as perfection. Because for perfection to be achieved then that means that judgement is being made. How would perfection ever truly be attainable if you do not know the other person’s expectation is. Being human means that we are all people who are of different calibre from others and therefore someone’s perception of expectation of another may not be achievable by the other. Complexities of personalities make these instances more difficult. Communication will also make achieving that level of perfection a challenge especially if each person’s communication styles are different.
All challenges have the ability to be overcome if there both parties are wanting to achieve a higher level. Once communication is achieved with both, there are new ways of looking at things and then the decision on how to proceed will become an option or not. Once conceding that people are imperfect and that they make mistakes can make things easier and anything from that point on can be achievable. Seeking perfection in another person is a selfish act with the expectation that someone can rise to that level .
Joanne Robinson
