There can be times that you meet the right person but at the wrong time in your life. The connection with this person can feel so right yet due to other circumstances in your life you cannot make that connection grow or evolve. There can be a myriad of reasons for this, but your only challenge is to let things happen the way they should and dig deep within yourself to find out the reason for why it did not work. The answers are always from within. Sometimes you may not know the reason immediately yet as time passes you will get an aha moment and realize why you had to experience that failed connection at that time.
With all failed connections, there are two active participants. Usually, a person will come into your life mirroring what you have going on which in turn gives you an indication of what you have to work on yourself. Not everyone you meet will be your future person however they add value to your life even if they are only present for a week or a season.
When relationships fail for whatever reason, it is not really a failure, it should be treated as a lesson. There is always something to learn from all our experiences if we are willing to take the time and reflect. Take the negativity away and truly look at it in a realistic light without all the blame and “what if” I had done this or that differently. Let go of that way of thinking because that is the past and we cannot rewrite history. We can only look at the story as it was told and how it played out because that is the reality. To think of it in any other fashion is an illusion that will perpetuate the feelings of losing out on something.
The takeaway is how you felt about the good parts and the bad. Now you have should ask yourself how you contributed to those experiences. What good parts will you take with you on your next relationship and what will you not do or accept from another person moving forward. Every new person in your life is not the same as the previous, so give them the benefit of the doubt that they will amaze you because you’ve worked on yourself, and you know that you deserve it. If you move forward believing that this new person will exceed your expectations than allow them to do so without any prejudices of the past.
Joanne Robinson
