We will never be completely healed from our own traumas however knowing your limitation on how things affect you will help you deal with your emotions. These feelings that are conjured up when you experience an event that you may have had in your past that is similar to what is currently happening that will bring up strong emotions. Your past experiences do not have to dictate future actions. You can control how you proceed with evaluating your emotional response.
Just because things don’t go your way doesn’t mean that you don’t matter. We are all matter in this world and we all have a part to play in our story. There are lessons we need to learn and experiences to be had whether they are good or bad. You need to embrace both the negative and the positive that life has to offer. For within the duality is growth potential.
The good times are situations that you would like to repeat over and over again. However, I would propose that good experiences are the similar to bad experiences. Meaning that you cannot recreate those feelings that you had with that initial horrible or great experience because it can only happen once. To try to relive or revive that experience will lead to disappointment or lack of satisfaction because a new experience is always fun because of the unexpected outcome. The unknown is the pleasure point, expectation is the disappointment.
For instance if you vacation to the same place, hotel and country year after year you will inevitably feel safe and comfortable because you know what you are in for. However to do the same is to merely exist and not live. To live is to experience and try new things, to do the same is limiting your enjoyment in life.
The illusion of safety is what binds people to the same old tried and tested format of living and hence why they feel like they are missing something in their life. They are missing passion or belief that they can and deserve better. The unknown is debilitating to certain people because they have false sense of control over their environment. If they never venture into the unknown then they feel that they can remain safe. Safety is just an illusion, it is someone’s childlike safety blanket that soothes their anxiety of change.
To change or venture into the unknown is to develop yourself into a better version of you. And what a wonderful gift you can give yourself, one of enjoyment in different experiences.
Joanne Robinson
