This life is so fast paced, and we get caught up in the glitz and glam of it all. People so caught up in what other people are doing, where they are going, what photo ops are they getting, what they are wearing. Social media has made us more envious of others and has increased negativity in the world. People look at others and then judge themselves as lacking because they don’t look the same or have the edited version of the body type that is being morphed into unattainable excess or the social status and the right number of followers. This social media consumption is warping people’s self-esteem which is already fragile to begin with.
People need to relearn how to love themselves. To remember that they came into this world alone and not to minimize relationships that are important in your life but that oneness is a beautiful thing. Once you can accept yourself as what you are (imperfections and all) the more you can offer to someone else in a relationship. Someone else will not give you the validation that will boost your self-esteem or provide unconditional love that you deeply desire which can be an illusion stemming from the feeling of missing something in your life.
If you fall in love with yourself, then you can truly experience the company of someone else to add to your life rather than to complete your life. Enjoy the time you get to spend learning about yourself and the things that make you happy. Another person will not be or want to be responsible for your happiness as that is such a big burden on another. The true reason why two people get together is to fill a want, not a need.
There is truth to the statement that you will find a relationship when you are not looking because people around you can sense that you are not in a needy mind frame that allows the other person time to get to know you. However, that doesn’t guarantee that the person you met will be the right one, they may be the right person for right now and not meant to be there for a long time no matter how you may feel.
With social media being so prevalent in one’s every day, it is difficult to remain optimistic about your own life if you use that source to judge how well you are doing in your life. You should learn to love yourself without requiring validation from others to boost your self-esteem or confidence. As relationships are meant to teach us more about ourselves, we give away our personal power if we search for their approval to feel better about ourselves.
Joanne Robinson
